My only tip this week is to take a step back from the madness, give yourself one gift, the gift of time. No matter how much there is to do keep some precious time for yourself.
Involve everyone in the preparation, let the children set the table and see everyone to their seats, take the guests up on their offers of assistance, loading the dishwasher, entertaining the children, share the chores and they will all be done that much sooner.
This can be a stressed day or a relaxing day, it is after all only one day, it's a roast dinner with dessert, it's nibbles later and probably too much chocolate and alcohol. But know your limitations and if you feel the need to take ten minutes, pour yourself a coffee (or something stronger) and take them.
When I feel the need I grab my coat and the dogs and walk, we walk the fields and watch the Red Kites soaring overhead, magical. Nature has a way of grounding you. Last week Lovely Hubby and I saw a Heron flying frantically over the farm something clasped in it's beak and then in close pursuit came the Buzzard obviously wanting the same snack, it didn't catch the Heron but while it lasted the flypast was magical and took our breath away.
We don't eat turkey in this house, but Archie the cat is definitely after our now defunct singing turkey, he sits for hours watching it.
I hope you all have a wonderful Christmas, this will be a hard one for us and it's been a tough year, but as a family we are pulling close, the bonds we have are tighter than ever as we prepare to face another traumatic time, I will tell you about this another day, for now I give you the gift of time.
You have to wrap it yourself place it somewhere safe, and then take the paper off whenever you need it. If you get really stressed out and have no time.......
JUMP UP AND DOWN ON THE BL**DY BOX ........... it's a great stress reliever.
Linking over to Angela at Tracing Rainbows and all the other top tipsters. Thank you to Angela for organising this, I hope some of the things we have mentioned in the posts have been of use. Angela's today has given me a few great ideas.
Sue xx
I agree completely about taking time for yourself - and these days I feel no guilt about taking it. In the past I would have felt guilty and stressed , but no more. In the past I would definitely have been jumping up and down on that box, in fact I doubt that one would have been enough. I count myself lucky that adversity and tough times changed my life for the better. Thinking of you on your first Christmas without Jessie. x
ReplyDeleteTime is ours to do with as we wish...not as others wish us to do. Enjoy yours....glad and blessed to know you.
ReplyDeleteJane xx
Oh, you are such a wise owl Sue!
ReplyDeleteThe stress isn't worth it.
Hope we can support you during the tough times.
Sft x
Thanks so much for taking part
ReplyDeleteBox-jumping sounds much more fun [and cheaper] than a Wii!!
blessings xx
Your presence is our gift ...
ReplyDeleteJoyeux Noël
thinking of you dear Sue on your first Christmas without Jessie.
ReplyDeleteWith love xx
I hope your Christmas is as lovely as can be, it is going to be a hard one for us being the first Christmas without my Grandad, I will be thinking of you and your family x x x x
ReplyDeleteTake care of yourselves as you have your first Christmas without Jessie. Hope your Mum and Dad enjoy Christmas too.
ReplyDeleteI am determined to try and enjoy our first Christmas without my Dad.
Wishing you and yours the best Christmas possible this year x x
ReplyDeleteThis will be my first Christmas without my Mum - but trying hard to put a brave face on it and do the 'right' thing by the rest of the family.
Thinking of you Sue. x
ReplyDeleteI often wonder why does one day of the year cause so much stress? I dont think Christmas was ever meant to be stressful...I think I will heed your advise and take a nice long walk tonight :)
ReplyDeleteSending best wishes to you and your family for this Christmas and the coming New Year, may it be filled with love, hope and peace...
great advice, we usually have a post lunch walk around our local nature reserve but this year my mother in law is not capable so we will go boxing day instead.
ReplyDeleteHerons in flight always make me laugh they look a bit like pteradactyls !
Have a great christmas
Shaz